3 characteristics of long-time popular people

Of course, if you are pretty and handsome, there is a high probability that you will be popular. But it doesn’t last as long as you think. First of all, we cannot avoid aging biologically. The continuity of physical beauty is clear even if the other person feels it, and the limit to maintaining it is clear. So, who is really popular?

listener

Everyone has a strong need for recognition. A platform called social media took over the world in an instant. The driving force underlying such a foundation is our desire to receive attention from others. When someone “Likes” a post on social media, dopamine is released, and we become addicted to it, driven by the desire to receive more and more love and attention. If so, the answer is out there. How much better would it feel if someone genuinely took an interest in me in the real world when I was enthusiastic about the ‘Like’ I clicked on the matrix, not even in the real world?

The most active act of interest is listening. The power of listening is powerful. Listening is a very active act of sincerely acknowledging someone’s existence. When you actually listen, rather than just pretending to listen, you get to know the other person closely. In today’s world, people are trying to figure out even a little bit of human patterns through big data. In such a world, if you know someone’s heart directly, this is not just information, but almost the same as grasping the truth. Who do you really like? Can you truly hate someone who knows your true heart and always cares about you?

A person whose words and actions match

One of the abilities that has put humans above other mammals is finding patterns. When you know patterns, you can make predictions, worry less about the future, and do more with less energy. There are so many different types of tired people in our lives, and one of them is someone whose words and actions are different. People like this can be avoided because they are not trustworthy and can further harm me. Conversely, a person who always agrees with his or her actions unconsciously wants to rely on and be with that person. What does that mean? It means that there are always people by his side. Popularity is not something I get by following. The secret to maintaining popularity for a long time is to have them naturally gather around me.

growing up

Humans are animals of adaptation. So if you fall in love with someone because of their good looks, that feeling won’t last as long as you think. When we get used to it, we lose interest. Conversely, people who keep growing are really attractive. If you have such a person next to you, you can get positive stimulation and anticipate what kind of person this person will grow. Most of us know from experience that growing up is not easy. From that point of view, if someone is growing, you can feel how much effort they are making without having to check the entire process. Confidence in that person naturally rises. If you really want to stay popular for a long time, fuel your life through growth!