Thoughts on the shelf life of human relationships
One of the hardest things in life is human relationships. Among them, the upper level would be a relationship with someone close to you. When a relationship with someone close to you is twisted, recovery is more difficult and more painful than you think. So the saying that the closer you are, the better you are, is really true.
In fact, most human relationships outside of family are with friends. And in most cases, friends continue their relationship at school or at work, regardless of their will, by being entangled in topics such as space or major. If you do similar work and study similar topics, you will naturally have similar concerns. So it’s a relationship that I met by chance, but I quickly get close and I have friends who spend the most time besides my family one by one.
When friends are made like that, the seeds of discord are also potentially sprouted. Humans cannot escape the need for recognition. The reason why the platform called SNS has spread to the world in such a short period of time is because it meets our needs. When we post, our friends can overcome the limitations of time and space and click ‘Like’ on our posts. When we are recognized like that, dopamine comes out and we become happy.
But the problem arises here. At a certain point, one friend complains about why another friend is neglecting them. I like to define these relationships as friendships with a short shelf life. In this kind of relationship, certain expressions must be given to the other party within the set expiration date. Otherwise, just like food spoils, friends with a short shelf life will also suffer. This happens between friends and it’s not uncommon between lovers.
The standard of a good friend will be different for each person. In my personal opinion, a good friend is a friend with a very long shelf life, and ultimately, a friend with no expiration date is the best friend. Usually, relationships with shared values often have a very long shelf life or virtually no expiration date because you know the person’s inner side and essence well. We haven’t been in touch often, but we always worry about each other, and even when we meet after a long time, it’s not unfamiliar and nice to meet you, as if we met yesterday.
This article is actually a reflection article and an excuse article at the same time. I am sorry for not being able to contact my friend often, and I am writing this to reflect on whether or not I asked others for a short expiration date. When I write, I always get organized. I didn’t know it before writing it, but as I wrote it, I realized it clearly. Because people are all different, it is not wrong to have an expiration date in a relationship. Rather, it is important to know the exact deadline. I realized that if the relationship is really important, it’s right to meet the deadline, and if the deadline is over, it’s right to end the relationship.