When do we start getting old?
No one can stop biological aging. It’s a sad reality, but there is a more miserable reality. It is the aging of the mind. Even if you are 20 years old, you are mentally old, and even if you are 80 years old, there are people who are young at heart. So when do we start to get emotionally old?
When dreams turn into regrets
Everyone has many dreams when they are young. That’s how much you don’t set your own limits and keep the possibilities wide open. As the years pass, your understanding of yourself increases and your dreams become reality. Narrow your options down to what seems possible. As we get older, our expectations for the future wither as we realize that some dreams are thwarted and others are too far away. From then on we start to grow old. I don’t remember exactly who said it, but there is a saying, “Those who dream never grow old.” It is a saying among sayings. Dreams don’t have to be grandiose. Any simple dream is a good enough dream if the waiting for the upcoming future is sprouting in your heart. A person with a real dream enjoys the process of moving towards a goal. That process is life. So, no matter how harsh and difficult the reality is, what you should never lose is your dream.
When you talk more about the past than the future
People hate it when they see kkondae, but I actually feel more compassion for them. Because they have no dreams of their own, they have no direction in life. So interfering in the lives of others is the only pleasure. At the same time, the word he says the most is “I used to say that in the past.” One of the most representative properties of dreams is that they have not yet come true. So, when a dream comes true, it is bound to feel futility as well as happiness. Because the dream is gone. People with dreams have their own identity in the future. So, of course, we talk more about the future than about the past. I’ve lived exactly half of my life expectancy, but I think I’m mentally younger now than I was in my 20s. In the past, I didn’t talk much about the future, but now I’m curious about what kind of future will come, so I’m so excited that I can’t sleep. Especially these days, the scale has grown a lot because I have a goal to grow the community I belong to rather than personal dreams. That’s how high the expectations are, and I don’t care about my current age or past. I think about how to achieve my dream every day and put it into practice. Because I live like that, I often hear from people around me, “Where does all that energy come from?” About 20 years later, I am hearing things that I could not have heard even when I was 20 years old. I’ll say it again, a dreamer never gets old easily.
When you are obsessed with what you have
The first time in my life that I thought I was old was when I became a dad. I was still young because I was in my early 30s, but I think I matured a little more emotionally as I felt the weight of being responsible for someone’s life. Obsession is a negative expression, but I can never give up on my family and I have a responsibility to protect them from anything. It is a kind of biological connection and a positive obsession that has led to love. So, when you become a parent, it is often said that you become an ‘adult’. We start getting older like this, obsessing over something we have. This situation is a process of maturing socially rather than mental aging. If you really grow old mentally, it’s when you’re obsessed with things like ‘experience’ you have. It also means that it will be difficult to recreate the glory of the past that he created in the future. The world is constantly changing and moving forward. In the end, if the attributes of what I have, whether material or mental, remain stagnant, I will be relatively weeded out and grow old. Of course, everyone’s life is precious. However, if the mind is buried in things that are not particularly precious and cannot move forward because of them, we will start to grow old.